Friday, April 5, 2013

{Forever Friday} If Only For A Little While

Today's {Forever Friday} post is guest authored by Megan Hilton from The Arizona Experiment. She is grateful to be Momma to four little ones -- three through miracles of adoption and one through foster care. Married in 2001, Megan and her husband, Shane, looked forward to starting a family. Despite their best-laid plans, it took five years (Megan enduring open-heart surgery along the way) to meet Carter (6.5), and three more years, including a failed match, to find Ruby (3.5). To their delight, Shane and Megan learned that Amelia (2) was on her way when Ruby was only nine months old. Little Man (4 months old), as their foster baby is affectionately known, has been with the family since birth and has everyone wrapped around his little fingers! Shane and Megan currently serve as AZ chapter and Southwest regional co-chairs for Families Supporting Adoption (FSA) and have enjoyed putting on regional FSA conferences over the last few years.


If you haven't seen Disney's "The Odd Life of Timothy Green" yet, I highly recommend it. Shane and I saw it opening week and I have since seen it again with BFF Jenny. I would go again right now if someone asked me to, and I would take a packet of Kleenex and go through the entire thing. Again. We will absolutely own this movie when it comes out on DVD. Not only was it filled with beautiful, pertinent messages for all of us (in my opinion), it hit really close to home in a tender way for someone entrenched in the world of adoption, foster care, infertility, etc. It was validating and sweet for me to have my Jenny friend cry with me.  
(I love you Jenny!!)

My birthday came and went earlier this month, a couple of weeks after seeing the movie with Shane. When he presented me with my belated birthday present a couple of days after my birthday, I had been having a crummy day. I was frustrated and irritated and not ready to come out of my cave about it. I was still trying to process things following our first foster care placement coming and going. My emotions were all over the place and I was trying to pinpoint how I even felt about it all. I reluctantly began to open a package to find this custom necklace created by my dear friends of The R House Couture:

At first I just saw the leaves and thought they were really unique and beautiful. I knew they reminded me of something. Shane connected the dots for me: Timothy Green. I pushed the leaves back to see the words stamped into the necklace. Shane was inspired by the following quote from the movie: 

(SPOILER ALERT: if you haven't seen the movie yet, this might be a bit of a spoiler!) 

If you came to me and said 'there are two people in the world who want you more than anything; they'll do their best, they'll make some mistakes, and you'll only get them for a short time, but they will love you more than you can ever imagine.' Well, when that's true, I'd say 'so much is possible.'

My husband explained how he wanted me to be able to have something that would help remind me, and help me to explain to others, why we were pursuing foster care. I seriously crumbled, weeping, into Shane's arms and my walls came crashing down. After a while I managed to get out a few very sincere words between sobs about how thoughtful and perfect a gift it was.

After we saw "The Odd Life of Timothy Green" together, but before our first foster placement, Shane and I had discussed how difficult it was to explain to anyone why we felt compelled to become foster parents. I think it's clear to everyone around us that we already have our hands plenty full. We get comments about it all the time. We feel it daily. And yet, somewhere deep in our hearts, we have known for several years that foster care was in our future. We have always known it wouldn't be easy but that we were meant to find our way onto that path when the time was right.

I recently read this post and found that it helped put into words some of my thoughts and feelings better than I think I can express.
This post originally appeared on The Arizona Experiment 9/18/12. Reposted with permission.

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